Category: Devotions

The Apostle Paul addresses the believer who is also a wife to her unbelieving husband. She was converted probably after her marriage to the unbelieving spouse. The advice is that she does not rush to severe the marriage relationship because of their different faith. Rather, if her husband does not object to her faith and is willing to honour the marriage, she must not leave him.

The husband with an unbelieving wife is not to leave his wife. He becomes a Christian after marriage as such his wife still an unbeliever. In such a situation, the Apostle Paul advises the man to keep the marriage. It may be that the wife is an idol worshipper still living in great unbelief and darkness.

The Apostle Paul observed that in the situation where a wife leaves her husband, she should remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband.

The Apostle Paul encouraged the heart of wives who may be contemplating leaving their husband, breaking the marriage covenant, to honour their vows before God. God will bless them in being faithful to the vow they have made.

For the Apostle Paul, God has given him the gift of singlehood whereby his focus was the ministry God entrusted to him as an apostle to the Gentiles. He explained that not everyone is called to the same state of celibacy. He addressed the unmarried and widows that if God gives them the strength to remain single, they may continue as they are.

There are times in a marriage when husband and wife give themselves to fasting and prayer. During those times, they would abstain from their marital rights, refrain from any physical intimacy by mutual consent. But such times are observed only temporarily.

William MacDonald observed well, “In marital union there is a dependence of the wife upon the husband and vice versa. In order to carry out God’s order in this holy union, both husband and wife must recognize their interdependence.”

Marriage with its comfort and satisfaction is God’s prescribed wisdom for preventing fornication. The word “fornication” describes all sorts of lawless lusts. And thus, in the marriage, both husband and wife has given the power over their own body to their better half. Any relationship outside the marriage covenant is a violation of the partner’s rights. [Matthew Henry]

Marriage is a blessed union of mutual dependence between the husband and the wife. With each carrying out their part of the commitment to support, encourage and bless one another in a lifetime of cleaving, comforting and strengthening. “Due benevolence” means demonstrating “kindness, conjugal duty, good will, consideration, thoughtfulness, unselfishness, compassion, kind-heartedness”. Let each fulfil their martial duty! [Hendricksen]

The Apostle Paul highlights the temptation to fall into the the sin of sexual immorality for believers who are single is very real. And he administers the remedy that one finds a spouse in marriage to avoid fornication. Of course, it is not the case that all single believers will face this problem. He tells us that it can happen.